Remember back in the day when we had cassette tape recorders? Do you remember recording your voice and then hitting the "play" button and listening to it and then, if you were like me, feeling shocked at what you sounded like?
As I've said before, I have five children. The Proverbial wife/mom/steward, is not typically how I would describe myself on a daily basis. I do make an effort every morning during what I like to call "rush hour" to keep calm, remain patient and keep a smile on my face until the youngest three are out the door to school where they are someone else's blessing for the day. I.OFTEN.FAIL.
Let me be clear... I am not proud of my fiery spirit at times or the volme of my voice. Two of the three boys have a pretty significant case of Attention Deficit Disorder and if you haven't experienced that before, please come to my home and indulge yourself in a treat of awe and wonder to see their little brains process things a tad slower than the rest of us.
Moving on to this morning, one of the twins decided he was frustrated with his counterpart and he said something that was downright negative, full of ugliness, and mean. I went to remind him to start the day off a little better than that when it occured to me, just as the taperecorder had done, of the voice that had said that same thing just the day before and it sure did sound awful hearing it played back.
I fill the pantry with healthy, non-sugary foods to avoid added toxins. I have essential oils to calm their tummies, their earaches, their anxieties. We don't have sugar and or chemically-filled sodas in the fridge (that often) and I try to "detox" the cleaning supplies and soaps and shampoos that we use. I try to avoid toxins when I can. BUT I realized I have some work to do on the words that come out of mine and my children's mouths.
We know in Psalm 19:14 that it says..
"May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you"
I don't know about you, but I think if I am able to apply that thought and that filter to my mouth before I speak , that I may just like the sound of my voice coming out of the mouth of my children the next time they copy my words.
Want some tips on how to lower the voice "toxins"?
PAUSE sweet friend. Use a moment in the heat of the battle to stop and think if God would be proud of what you are about to say.
RETREAT take a moment to yourself when you feel the negative energy coming on and leave the room until you can revisit the moment later.
JOURNAL write down atleast five phrases you could use that are a little more "environmentally" friendly and meditate on them so they become your new "go to" words.
"PLAN" AHEAD do you usually get edgy after coffee? Get cranky if you wake without enough sleep? Hold off on the coffee until after your "rush hour", realize you will likely keep acting the same way if you continue to get the same amount of sleep and try switching things up to see if it helps.
BREATHE the biggest of breaths you can and then exhale it down into the pit of your stomach and release the negative out of your body.
SING I have been know during "rush hour" to play some nice, uplifting music to calm the craziness and have even been known to sing the words outloud while I am in the midst of a frustrating moment.
See if these help. Know you are not alone. Detox your words.