Those of you that have been my clients, my family and my friends, know that I don't often let you get by with too many excuses.
My youngest step son is about to turn TEN. I've raised him as my own since he was three. He has some health issues that require daily medication and he's been taking it in liquid form for two years. Let's just say that we had reasons to motivate him to move to a "big boy" pill (one of them being a significant savings in cost)!!
I knew this morning was going to be a bit rough with his first day trying to swallow the pill. His big brothers would mock him, be unkind and make it ten times harder on him to do what he needed to do.
I took his medicine and a cup of water up to his room this morning as I woke him up for the day. I told him I believed in him, I knew he could do it, and that it was our little practice session so his brothers didn't need to know a thing.
First attempt, gagging, coughing, spewing (all expected).
His second attempt, pill falls into the water cup.
He starts to cry and says that he can't do it.
His third attempt, (the pill is now soggy and barely contained) the spewing continues.
His fourth attempt, same as the first.
He is crying even more now. In the past I would have been irritated as all get out, said some things I would likely regret and storm down the stairs.
INSTEAD, God gave me these words for this little boy that needed to believe in himself.
"Tears are always okay when you are sad. Let's say you lost a friend, a pet, you feel really sick or you are just having a bad day. But right now, I want you to get mad and determined. I don't want you to say bad things about yourself anymore. I want you to be a rock star and get determined right now to swallow that silly pill. Dry up the tears, save them for something sad. Do you want to be sad or a rock star? "
My little guy, through his drying up tears, said "Rockstar" and he grabbed the soggy pill and downed it like a hero.
What do you need to get mad and determined about today? I don't want to hear you call yourself names or sit in your own tears.
He can. SO can you.