"Sure is a long way up here God but I wanted to get as close to you as I can." Does anyone remember this episode where little Laura climbed up a mountain to pray for a miracle for her brother? I don't know about you but lately I've been wanting to climb up as close to God as I can. I also feel a little bit like we are currently living like Little House on the Prairie right now. I mean think about it, really. Families are all under one roof. Days are filled with schooling, chores, finding ways to provide basic needs like food and essentials. Lots of praying and resting when it gets dark out and waking up when the sun rises.
I believe amidst the chaos that there's a ton of beauty and when this is (God willing) all over and done with, we are going to possibly look back on these times and miss certain elements of it and I am doing my best to remember that.
For me personally, my two daughters are learning to know one another again. As most of you know, my oldest (22) has struggled with drug addiction and the past 8 years has been anything but "normal" and my daughters grew super far apart. Since her accident in December, she's been home and healing and getting used to new friends, a new life and a new routine.. but like everyone else.. that is haulted now and I worry about her going backwards. My three step boys are in Denver with their mom and we now only see them virtually and that's an adjustment for sure.
My very social 20 year old daughter made the choice to move 9 hours home from Arkansas and to leave the few friends and roommates still there, behind. She's learning to be around her sister again, to honor their differences and to put up with isolation like we all are. But last night for the first time, I realized just how much I am trying to hold it together for all of them.. to be the positive and happy go lucky cheerleader when one is afraid of her weakened immune system from the accident, when one is terrified of how long she will be kept from her "life" and also afraid she is going to accidentally bring the virus to us from college, and a husband who is working non stop while he can to support us but whom also loses sleep afraid he will get sick. I wanted to reach out to someone, to text, to vent, to cry.. but I didn't want to be a burden on my friends who are also going through the same thing. Long story short.. I am offering the UNLIMITED "package" so that you can have that person I needed and we can all get through this in creative ways.
Laura Ingalls, I get you girl. I also know we don't need to climb a mountain for Him to hear us right now. He's right beside us. He's not angry. He hasn't forgotten us. He didn't bring this on all of us as a punishment or a curse. I want to be there for the real emotions, for those wanting to maybe be uspet with God right now. I want to be there for those that may not know how to pray, how to mourn, how to ask for help.
I am here. Keep looking up. xoxo Coach Kim
I don't have the words, the wisdom or the ability to make everything okay in the world right now.
It's okay to feel uneasy, not ok, and apprehensive.
I can post all of the positive images and verses and pretend that I am ok. I am real. We all are. There are some of us so alone they aren't sure what to do. There are some who have so many littles at home, they are losing their mind. There are some who are older, sick, poor, unable to work or order in. Some have steady incomes, some have lost their job, some have always worked from home, homeschooled, been a stay at home mom, but for most, this is all very new.
My thoughts won't apply to everyone but I wanted to share them for what they are worth today.
I have found myself several times in my life battling the darkness, the sadness and the guilt for having those feelings just added to them. I learned a few tips and tricks along the way that have eased my worry about them returning but I have to be mindful, cope ahead when I know I could be susceptible again and above all, to put God before my emotions.
Our lives are mostly topsy turvy right now. I THRIVE(d) on a schedule and a routine. Yep, I was that that girl, that child and now that woman that isn't a fan of weekends or summers or school breaks because the lack of routine freaked my mind out a bit.. can you imagine?? So.. what do people like us do in times like these?
Set an alarm.
Thank God from your knees.
Spend time in your Bible and in your meditation.
Make your bed.
Make a schedule so you feel you have a purpose and a checklist.
Carve out a time each day for work, kids work, yard work, homework, work work.
Carve out a time for exercise. Get creative here. Most of you have been a member of a gym or a class and you have the skills in you. Pull up a youtube video for abs or booties or cardio.
Carve out a time for rest.
Have set meal times.
Buy groceries and supplies once a week and get creative with your new budget or your new time.
Have a set TV off time during the day.
Have a set bed time.
Make a certain day be laundry day.
Make a certain day be housecleaning day.
As part of your schedule, add in an outing and you may have to get creative here and even toss some options in a bag and pull one out each day. Socially distant is tricky but think of wildflower drives and a picnic. Think of a day you visit all your old homes if you live close.
I know a lot of you have babies, toddlers, youth, adolescents and teens at home and these are going to be trickier to do but trust me when I say that looking at a schedule takes less time and energy than trying constantly to figure out what to do next.
I know some of you are alone. Reach out daily in a video or phone or text. Don't isolate.
I know some of you are scared. Look up please and find a relationship with Him maybe for the first time. Make some prayer journals, some prayer rooms, some connections you've felt you didn't have with Him.
Come to Me.. all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28-30
Maybe this is His greatest way to bring us all to Him. To get us to slow down, to look up, to come together, apart. I want you to stay above the darkness, out of the shadow, ahead of the sad. Take this one day, one "schedule" at a time and keep looking around for the reminders of Hope.
Cry if you need to. Pray when you can. Laugh at the crazy times. Provide Hope to those who may need it today and ask for them to give hope to you on the days you need it.
I am a holler away.
Three years ago, during yet another run of not hearing from my daughter, I sat in my bed with my Bible on my lap, a stack of brightly-colored note cards and a pen next to me, and I searched for promises I could hold on to. I wrote down 27 verses and taped them all over my wall in my closet where I would spend years stading, kneeling, crying and reciting. Months would come and go for years when I had no idea where she was. We would reconnect for a moment and she was gone again and the cycle would continue. I remember in October, through tears and a lot of pain, asking God what He was waiting for and why He wasn't bringing her back to us. One morning He answered me through that heavy, happy feeling that I call the Holy Spirit quietly whispering.. "I am waiting for you to be ready." I sat with that for a few days and did some honest reflection before I proudly stood in that closet and told Him I was indeed ready and the next day, which was the night before my daughters car accident, I had a heavy feeling to call two very dear friends to come over and pray with me for her life. We spent two hours on my couch praying specifically for the salvation of her life; for the restoration of everything the enemy had taken these past 8 years; and for her to be protected from all that had been going on. I had been praying relentlessly through anger, tears, turmoil, breathless moments when I knew bad things were happening, and hope. I knew it as it was happening with my friends in that moment that something had shifted. The next morning my daughter was in a head on collision. The firemen had to get a tool to cut her steel door and remove her from the wreckage where she was pinned in, not expected to survive.
It wasn't until a week or so after her accident when I saw this verse in a new light. That night I went through the Bible three years ago, I wrote down this promise from TPT:
Psalms 107:16 God spoke Be healed and she was healed, delivered from deaths gate. For he smashed through heavy prison doors and shattered steel bars to set her free.
If you notice in the above picture, I wrote down "shattered steel doors" on accident.. not knowing that was the promise He was actually giving me. He would literally shatter the steel doors of that back seat of the car to set her free.
For today, she's in our life, in our home, and she is restoring and returning and she's healing not only from the accident but from her life. For today. My prayers won't stop.
Believe in Him. Recite His promises. Don't give up. It may not look the way you think. Find the peace in it. He's getting you ready. That voice in your head that tells you His promises and holding Him to it are meant for other people not you, remind it whose daughter you are, boldly recite the promises back inserting your name (or the one you are praying for), and walk off with peace knowing He's got it. And do it again tomorrow.
Love, Coach Kim xoxo
A little bit about me... serious body image issues resulting in three treatment centers when I was close to death at 13, 18 and 30. I was surrounded by girls and then women just like me. We struggle to look in the mirror, to be in a swimsuit, to stand anywhere but the very back in the gym class. I know you are out there too. I love you.
I also know those of you out there that have slayed the body image demon. You stand proudly at the beach like these women. You are in the front of the class facing the mirror with your own reflection so close you can touch it. I love you too.
Like many of us do during or after our struggles, I found a silver lining later in life. I am a mom to two beautiful young women but we didn't have fashion magazines, diet talk, a scale or weight talk in our home and I taught them they could always turn around and NOT look at the scale during doctor visits. Had I not journeyed through my own issues before, I may have leaked that junk out on to them!
I don't know what your goal(s) look like unless we are working together but part of my job is to make sure they aren't self-deprecating but rather, full of self love while also honoring God with your purpose. I doubt God wants me hiding in the corner in the back of my barre class trying to creativley avoid looking in the mirror. He knows I am a work in progress and that I'll somehow find a way to honor His purpose for me from a safe lil distance for now, and if you're like me, you will too.
During one of my treatment stays, a stunning young woman sat next to me in group for weeks. She would tell me that she hated her reflection. I could simply not believe she didn't see what I saw. I wrote the below message on a Post-it, stuck it in our bathroom mirror and the next day she came to me thanking me for giving her a new way to look at herself.
Look at yourself the way I see you and all that will remain is beauty. Love God
You are more awesome than you think you are.. ass and all. Keep moving toward the front, and if you are already there.. thank you for reminding us to SLAY.
As I sat down to write this, I made the mistake of having the news on. The new chicken sandwich from Popeye's just made an encore appearance and some crazy incident between two people waiting in line just made the news. I turned it off. I now listen to worship music and my mind, soul and heart feels better.
What do you give your attention to? This isn't a lecture on avoiding social media, your phones, the television or movies. I really just want to say that whatever gets the most of us is what fill us. What we start our day with typically dictates the way it will unfold.
As a child, I remember a needlepoint saying hanging in my Aunt Wa Wee's home ( how much do you love her name?)....
A DAY HEMMED IN PRAYER SELDOM UNRAVELS
I didn't realize the truth in that then as much as I do now. If we start our day in prayer, worship and thanksgiving, we are certainly not guaranteed a day without some trials but we are more equipped with peace and knowledge to go slay the day in a way that otherwise starting out staring at what everyone else's life looks like in comparison to yours doesn't.
Honor yourself by honoring Him and see how your day can feel a little less unraveled.
Keeping it real. Keeping it simple.
I want to serve you an abundant tray of beauty. I want your life to shine a little brighter, even in the darkness. I want you to come out of hiding (one of the enemy's attacks). These are a few of the many reasons I do what I do.
I share snip-its of my life at times with my clients so they know I speak from experience when I say what I say to them.
I have tagged just a few of you in this post who are among the many that have been there for me lately. You have brought me beauty, strength, friendship, courage and belief in human kindness. There are things that get me through my life. I believe in wholesome, amazing products. I believe in surrounding yourself with succulents or plants. I believe in honoring your body with good supplements and holistic healing. I believe in finding a workout regimen that honors you. I believe in true friendships that show up when it's ugly. I believe in having someone to help you be accountable in your life and to keep you moving.
I go to bed every night having no idea where my oldest daughter is. I wake up each morning hoping it's all a bad dream.
I suddenly went from a mom and step mom of five to an empty nester in a matter of weeks. I moved to more land, a greater home, a more serene setting. I didn't do it because I needed more. I did it for reasons you may never understand but it's likely not for the reasons you think.
My step boys had an opportunity to live with their biological mother for the first time in nearly a decade and it was a decision that brought my husband and I to our knees seeking direction. Deciding to sell our home and relocate also brought us to our knees seeking direction.
I offer grace to those who have disappeared. I offer grace and forgivenss for those who ask me why I haven't been able to fix my oldest. I offer understanding to those who have judged us with your comments because you aren't walking in our shoes.
This week I showed up for a woman in my Barre3 class who was unsure, scared, lacking confidence and I stood by her three classes in a row as I saw her confidence emerge. She just needed someone to witness her effort; to literally stand beside her as she tried something she didn't think she could do.
This week I showed a dear friend my very sacred Warroom and offered it to her when she needs it (a special surprise gift that was waiting for me in my new office that I didn't even know about until move in day).
Why do I do what I do? Because I fully understand the desire to have your efforts noticed. I understand raw pain that doesn't go away. I understand wanting to try but being trapped by fear. I understand hiding.
I find strength and grace in everyday and I want to show you how to as well.
Come out of hiding beautiful friend.